Thursday, June 2, 2016

What's My Motivation (or I'm Putting Myself Out There)

For those who know me and follow this blog, you know I can be a bit of a deadbeat at times. I don’t mean to be but when it comes to my blog or social media in general, there are times when I am radio silent. It doesn’t mean that I don’t care because believe me I do. It’s just that life gets in the way and by life I mean money. I’m still trying to find a way to budget and still indulge in my vice (online shopping) but sometimes even with a two income household, the bills get bigger than anticipated and I end up having to part temporarily with the one thing that I love and that’s my laptop. I’m not going to lie to you guys, the laptop almost always ends up going to the pawn shop for a bit but then I get it back and I always say I won’t hock it again only to two weeks later tell Lovey “you know what to do” and he solemnly takes my laptop back to the “shop”. I then tell myself that I will still blog even if it means going to my grandmother’s house or my mother’s house and using their desktops to do it. But with work and the kids I just want to lay down and take a nap and I never make it over there to blog. So what is a girl to do when she’s in a financial cul-de-sac and there’s no escaping it? Well the time has come for me to be a big girl (a 34 year old big girl) and make my way to keep what’s mine and do what I love and if I’m lucky find a way to monetize on it. Don’t get me wrong, money is not my sole motivation for why I blog. I see it as an outlet, especially in a profession where individuality and innovation is not encouraged. I always ask myself what’s so special about me and what makes me stand out more than the rest? Well I have so many stories to tell and a job that is anything but boring.

When I started “Same Hair Different Head” I meant for it to be a hair blog, but I am not my hair (cue India. Arie). I love my hair and I love anything hair related, but I want my blog to do more. I want to explore myself as a person who loves makeup but can’t stand putting it on. I want to talk more about being a mother and a wife and a correctional sergeant and a person who lives with depression and a piercing addict and a girl who loves a good vape every now and then. I want to put those things out there, but a small voice keeps telling me “no one cares about that” or “you won’t attract readers with things like vaping and piercing”. Now I want to tell that voice to have several seats and let me just dive in and see what people want to read about. I have had a small following with this blog and I’m so grateful but I want to expand and grow my blog to something that people look forward to reading.

I know you’re thinking “Afton what’s the point of this post?” Well the point is that I’m ready to put what really goes on in my life out there and while it may seem boring to me, it may not be to someone else. I have opinions and thoughts and I want them out there in a wider scale. So if you’re with me and ready to dive in to what makes “Same Hair Different Head” tick, then spread the word to everyone who may get a kick out it and maybe get something out of it.

Do you have a blog that you want the world to see and appreciate? Let me know in the comments below.


  1. Thanks for publishing this Afton! I know that it was hard. You are courageous and beautifully brave!

    This blog---this small space in the giant world---is yours.



    Say what you want. Post what matters to you.

    Be authentic. (Which you obviously have NO problem doing!)

    There will be people who relate. There will be people who don't.

    But at the end of the day, you can rest easy knowing that you are who you are meant to be.

    And as far as your financial situation. It sounds like a cycle that you want to escape. Make an achievable plan. Stick to it. And you'll succeed. You're entirely too smart, dedicated, and resourceful to go around in circles with your finances. You got this chica!

    KLP @

    1. KLP
      Thank you for your encouraging words. I really needed to hear (or read) them this morning to get me going. I'm just excited for the next chapter in my blogging story and hope someone out there reads it and says "me too".